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I took a walk in the beach today (as much as I hate the sea breeze and the sticky feeling afterwards) hoping to catch the sunset. 

Maybe see something beautiful and get some perspective. In a way it was soul searching exercise, as I I was searching for my soul. Lately I’ve begun feel like I might have lost it along the way…. anyhow the point of this is that looking at the sun changes nothing, maybe just maybe a momentary escape but never a permanent solution. 

This picture however gave me a thought: you maybe standing on shaky ground and the sand under your feet is shifting with every incoming wave BUT stand your ground and stand firm. 

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Criticism: use it to make yourself better, not bitter

We are all naturally biased towards ourselves. We do not want to admit our flaws and we definitely do not want others to see them. Everything we do seems to be a cover up of our iniquities and flaws. This isn’t a really a bad thing. It’s always the correct choice to minimise a flaw in yourself and the effect it has on you (and anything that you are involved in), be it relationships, work, believes or even life in order to generalise things.

Of course to do this one must first be willing to accept one’s own flaws and obviously you wouldn’t want to fix something that you find precise and is working fine. This is when criticism becomes important. While internal (reality-checks) criticism is viable, external criticism has a higher weight in helping you better yourself. However, it is constructive criticism that has proven to be one of the more effective types of criticism.

What is constructive criticism? It is but feedback justified with rational reasoning and void of bias or judgment of any form. The purpose of constructive criticism is to give feedback to correct a flaw or improve a situation or character trait in a manner that is acceptable to the reserve.

Now criticism in any form is not an easy pill to swallow. It requires a certain level of maturity and self-awareness to digest, rationalise and accept or decline the given feedback with justification.

Some tend to think of a flaw as a secret that must be hidden and never revealed. This leads to insecurities that lead to false pretenses and disguises to hide this flaw, as we fear that a flaw exposed is inherently a bad thing or failure. Now imagine a company with inefficiency in its process or software with a bug or a car model with a defect decides to hide their flaws and guise them with something more exotic? I’m sure these processors and products might even work or sell but eventually it will fail to do what it could have done better. It’s the same ideology with people.

My [humble] opinion is that a flaw is an attribute that can be rectified. If we are willing to accept it as a flaw and actively work towards bettering ourselves, constructive criticism is the opportunity to first identify these said flaws.

In conclusion, use constructive criticism to make you better. Try not to be bitter about it when receiving it and never hand out criticism when YOU are bitter or cannot accept criticism.

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23 lessons I learned in my 23 years

24th lessons I learned in my 24 years:

24. Take chances even if you know the outcome is awful. You’re only 24 and you only know so much, so add to your experience what ever you can. Experiment on things you feel that will make you better.

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18th September 2015 – I AM 23! I started writing this list exactly one month ago – 18th August 2015. I completed it two hours ago. I gave this a lot of thought, and think this covered most of the important lessons (in no particular order). Reflecting on incidents that made an impact on my life was an inspiring exercise. Most people might see 23 years like a short period. However, if you look closely, you can learn so much from each situation. Whether you are younger or older, here is some wisdom I got in my 23 years that you might find interesting.

  1. Nothing comes easy – but hard work pays off, big time! Outcome is depended on how much effort I put in, and I would not have it any other way.
  2. Experience is everything – don’t fuss over a puny salary.
  3. “Don’t make assumptions” –…

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Handle With Care

පොඩි කාලෙදී තාත්තා අපිට සෙල්ලම් බඩුවක් ගෙනත් දුන්නම ඉස්සෙල්ලාම, පොඩ්ඩක සැරෙන් වගේ කියන්නෙ “පරිස්සමෙන්, කඩන්නේ නැතුව සෙල්ලම් කරන්න.” කියලා.

එහෙම කියන්නේ ඒවා කැඩුනොත් ආයේ අරන් දෙන්න වෙන නිසාම නෙවෙයි, සමහර විට එහෙම අරන් දෙන්න සල්ලි නැතුව වෙන්නත් පුළුවන්. එහෙම කියන්නේ ඒවා ගන්න දුක් මහන්සි වෙලා හම්බ කරපු හැටි දන්නෙ එයාම නිසා. අපිට නැති වුනත් ඒකෙ වටිනාකමක් එයාට තියෙනවා.

අපි‍ට යමක් ලැබුණාම ඒවා වල වටිනාකම තේරුම් අරගෙන පරිස්සමෙන් පාවිච්චි කරන්න ඉස්සෙල්ලාම ඉගෙන ගන්නේ එතනින්.
දැන් පොඩ්ඩක් හිතන්න. දෙමාපියනට ලැබුණු ලොකුම තෑග්ග මොකක්ද? බොහෝම අමාරුවෙන් ලෝකෙට බිහිකරපු, දුක් මහන්සියෙන් හදා වඩා ගත්ත තමාගේම දරුවන් නේද?

ඒගොල්ලන්ට හම්බවෙච්ච ඒ තෑග්ග රැකගන්න මොන තරම් නං දේවල් කරනවද? අපිට කන්න බොන්න දීලා, හොඳට උගන්නලා, පන්ති වලට එක්කං ගිහිල්ලා පන්තිය ඉවර වෙනකන් අනික් ඔක්කෝම වැඩ පැත්තකින් තියලා බලං ඉඳලා, අනාගතය ගැන හිතලා රක්ෂණ ඔප්පුවකුත් අරගෙන, රෑ ජාමෙට ගෙදර එනකල් නිදි මරාගෙන බලං ඉඳලා, කොච්චරනං කට්ටක් කන්න ඇත්ද?

මෙච්චර මහන්සි වෙලා අපේ දෙමාපියන් ලොවට දායාද කරපු මේ ජිවිතයත් එක්ක අපි මොනවාද කරන්න?

අනිත් අයගෙ ජිවිත කොහොමද කියන්න මම දන්නේ නෑ. වෙන කෙනෙකුට ජීවත් වෙන්න ඕනේ කොහොමද කියලා කියන්නත් මට අයිතියකුත් නෑ. මං කියන්නේ මේකයි. පොඩ්ඩක් නැවතිලා ආපස්ස බලලා, ඉදිරියත්, බලලා අපේ ජිවිත වලට ආදරය කරලා, අනිත් අයගෙ ජිවිතත් පොඩ්ඩක් ලස්සන කරන්න පුළුවන්නම්. ඒක මං හිතන්නේ අපිට ජීවිතය දුන්න අයට කරන්න පුලුවන් ලොකු ගෞරවයක්!

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Behind Closed Doors

It’s scary how much I identify myself with one of these stories. Most people wouldn’t see how I can relate to it but I guess behind closed doors things are very different.

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I must say that this idea is not an original one (no one said I was the original-creative sort to begin with!) and it was something I shamelessly stole off Laura. As Laura says over in her post, I too know the following people. Some of their stories might have been tweaked a little so their identities will be protected thus making certain elements fictitious. But these stories are true and to some of us, maybe even relatable.

Meet A

A is a boy. A, at 23 has the perfect life, with a perfect job and is very happy with how things are going. He does not have a degree however, because he wasn’t too keen on studying despite having the means to do so, but is in the field of work that he cannot get enough of. Call him a workaholic, A has been working since he left…

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Rant

The world is too calm and I’m on fire … Its wired and I’m slowly edging towards the deep end.. It all might end soon. I don’t know.. It feels like I’ve lost control of my emotions. Its as if I’d rather do and say the opposite of what I mean to do and say… In my head I’m reading this out in a Scottish accent. That’s wired right? Like properly wired… I just leant that I can’t spell properly without the help of automated correction programs.

I’ve been having these crazy thoughts, I bet everyone has thought about these things at some point. Thoughts like why does world spin around a liquid spoon? Who made Portello? And why is every human being not like David Tennant??

Man sometime I think I’m going mad but that can’t be right, right? This is totally normal for a person. It’s like the world doesn’t even revolve around me… I mean I know it does.. But I don’t know man. I sometimes feel like it doesn’t and that thought makes me a little sad you know?

So how’ve you been?

Why I voted and you should too!

The long awaited Presidential election is finally here and tomorrow all the dogs in the country will go through hell ( I mean actual dogs, because of the fireworks and crackers). Now I hope all of you if not most of you used your valuable vote to elect the next president of Sri Lanka or to reelect the current president.

I too did vote, got my little finger painted in a color that somewhat seem to look like purple and yes I also uploaded a picture of it to show the world that I did indeed vote, even thought I find the act of posting things like that quiet obnoxious I kinda get why people would want to do it, you made a decision that could effect a nation and you’re proud and you should be. Turns out this is one of the largest turn out of votes for a election.

Who ever wins be it a new leader or the current one, I have no faith on either but I voted either way because it is my responsibility as a citizen, not as a favor for the candidates or for myself but for the sake of the bigger picture. For everyone who didn’t vote because they didn’t see a plausible gain for themselves or because you thought getting involved in politics is not for you, well the whole point of electing someone is so that they will get involved in the political affairs so you don’t have to and secondly, next time do vote because its not always about you.

I don’t believe my vote made a difference, whoever I vote for will most probably make no difference in my life but I hope it will be a part of something that will benefit the entire nation and I salute all who stepped out and cast their vote for at least trying to bring about change.

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P.S. go easy on the fireworks and crackers, think about the dogs. The winner probably won’t even hear or care about the noise but a dog will always care about you and love you forever!

Update: Turns out the turn out of voters have decrease this time, contrary to my statement about it being one of the largest turn outs. It certainly seemed so.

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